One of the basic needs of man is to feel accepted common. This is the secret to establishing and maintaining great relationships with various types of people in Qatar.
A number of books, articles, and seminars have taken the role of educating people like you on the different ways of associating with people and building lasting relationships with them. There are several things that you can do when associating with other people.
One of these is to cause them to feel acknowledged.
As per Maslow’s progressive system of necessities, one of man’s fundamental needs is to feel a feeling of having a place with a gathering. Man feels the feeling of having a place in either little gatherings like a family and little friend network or large gatherings like clubs, groups, affiliations, divisions, and gatherings.
People have to feel they belong and are needed. One way to convey acceptance of people’s ideas is by simply listening. Listening communicates the message that their thoughts are valued and their inputs are significant. It answers the very basic need to belong and provides a sense of importance.
Have you ever been to any of the following situations?
- While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the sentence for you.
- While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would butt in and narrate a similar story.
- In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your side.
- You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight to his room.
- You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy watching football.
How did you feel? Not good, right? It’s as if you are taken for granted.
It’s as if no one is listening to you and that you do not matter. It signifies that your thoughts, concerns, and ideas are not accepted.
At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of acceptance from a mother who touches and caresses him in a loving way. As he grows older, his sense of acceptance and importance now comes from other relations, friends, teachers, peers, bosses, officemates, spouses, children, etc. everyone must be accepted. It puts aiming to a person’s existence.
Imagine life with a total absence of acceptance.
Envision the life of babies who were abandoned by their mothers. Imagine the effect this will have on the babies’ emotional well-being. It is very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and feeling discriminated against. The effects of discrimination can result in resentment and, if uncontrolled, can result in violent tendencies.
The feeling of resentment that is harbored overtime can escalate to anger and hostility. When a person becomes hostile, violence erupts. Resentment is like a forest fire – it can turn wild especially when fanned with more resentments. The mere civil act of accepting a person “can make or break them,” as the saying goes.
Acceptance must be done unconditionally.
The giver should not expect anything in return. There should be no “no strings attached” or no commitments to fulfill. To expect something in return defeats the purpose of making others like you. In fact, this may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you are manipulating people by forcing them into a situation they may not like in the future.
Unconditional acceptance of other people’s thoughts, ideas, and concerns.
It can yield favorable outcomes. Acceptance elicits cooperation and this leads to working towards a common goal. Acceptance yields positive and fruitful results. At the same time, you have raised the esteem, importance, and morale of the person whom you have accorded respect and acceptance.
Be willing to accept other people’s ideas, thoughts, and inputs. You will harvest not only good results but also the admiration and appreciation of others, as well.